Friday, July 29, 2011
Religious Fundamentalism, Radicalism and Terrorism
Tuesday, July 26, 2011
Excessive Celebration
"The thing is, baseball is a game of humility. You can be on top one minute, as low as possible the next. When you're young, you don't realize it. But sooner or later you learn—we all do. Be humble."
Friday, July 22, 2011
Sports and Tragedy
Tuesday, July 19, 2011
How Someone Can Be Wrong Even When They’re Right
I’d like to believe that when it really comes down to it, my 6-year old son Daniel and my 3-year old daughter Sophia really love each other. Of course, they don’t always act in a way which demonstrates this reality. As I observed some of their squabbles this past weekend, I couldn’t help but notice a common theme in their conflict.
One afternoon, we were driving home from the pool and they got into a fierce argument in the backseat about that always controversial topic: Princesses. Here’s a summary (at least the part that I overheard):
Daniel: Daddy, Sophia said that princesses have magic powers. Sophia is wrong!
Sophia: (clearly upset) Yes they do! They have magic wands and they do have magic powers!
Daniel: Those aren’t real, that’s only on television. Real princesses don’t have magic powers, right daddy?
Sophia: (really upset) You’re wrong, and I’m right. They do have powers!
Daniel: No they don’t, Sophia. Ask anyone. Ask Ah-Gong (my father and their grandfather). He’s a scientist and he’ll tell you they don’t have magic powers.
Sophia: (now on the verge of tears) Yes they do!
Daniel: Ask anyone. Everyone will tell you that you’re wrong, even the President would tell you you’re wrong!
Sophia: (pretty much crying now) I’m right and everyone else is wrong!
Later on that evening while we had guests over, Daniel, Sophia and some other kids their age were playing Chutes and Ladders together, and this is what transpired:
Sophia: (walking up to me and my wife crying) Daniel said I’m bad and I’m not allowed to play!
Daniel: Sophia’s playing the wrong way! She didn’t follow the rules so she’s not allowed to play!
Now in both of these situations, Daniel is technically right. I hope I don’t break anyone’s bubble out there, but when Kate Middleton became Princess Kate, she didn’t acquire the ability to fly and she wasn’t given her a wand to enable her to transform vegetables into mechanical objects. In that same vein, I don’t doubt for a second that Sophia didn’t play the game exactly by the rules. Maybe she moved her piece backwards or maybe she spun the wheel multiple times.
But in a larger sense, Daniel’s wrong. He’s wrong because of his inability to extend basic grace and love to his sister even as he points out her mistakes. Now in fairness, Daniel’s six years old and that discipline is going to get better and adults are lousy at this, too (more on this later), but I think it’s fair to say that his relationship with Sophia is at a stage where he simply finds her annoying and if he catches her in a mistake, he’s going in for the kill.
Extending grace to Sophia is hard for Daniel right now. I can appreciate that during this season of life, she’s largely a nuisance who touches or breaks his stuff. It’s easy for him to lord his newfound and developing ‘intelligence’ over her. He won’t (or can’t) gently correct her or give a more nuanced response which won’t antagonize or devastate her. For goodness gracious, he was so intent on piling on the poor girl around her misguided view on princesses that he dragged President Obama into the argument. Lighten up, dude.
In the same way, Daniel could have handled the board game situation better. I’ve seen how Daniel treats our toddler, Carissa, and I don’t think he wouldn’t have been as harsh with her. He would’ve laughed it off, found a way to get her involved in the game or at least given her something else to distract her.
Of course, there are glimpses of Daniel’s behavior in all of us, right? There are situations where we’re not satisfied with having a point of view that we believe is right, we need to annihilate the other person and twist the knife. There are people who rub us the wrong way who we feel a need to get the last word in. At some point, the thing that becomes most important is that the other person acknowledges that we’re right, and the relationship itself becomes secondary. But to use Christian lingo, this is where the nuanced marriage between “truth” and “grace” need to intersect. Or to borrow a construct from the apostle Paul, if we have truth but do not have love or grace, what worth is it?
And we sit back and justify our actions and our attitude because “we’re right”. But maybe in the larger sense, we’re not.
Friday, July 15, 2011
Breaking Ethnic Walls, One at a Time
I would submit to you that not only is class alive and well in America, but it is as rigid as it is real. If you disagree, ask yourself whether you would feel uncomfortably out of place if you tried something different. Depending on where you’re coming from, riding the bus or going to the opera or sending your kids to a certain school will seem so out of character that you can’t even fathom subjecting yourself and your family to it. We make the lamest excuses to keep from doing this – it’s inconvenient, I can’t afford it, my child won’t do well there – but I think fundamentally it is about the unstated but very real barriers that we place upon ourselves to go no higher or lower than what we understand our class boundaries to be.
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
To Catch An Adulterer... I'm Chris Hansen
Maybe it's the reality that as grave as these crimes are, Hansen seems to believe strongly that they are worthy of national public humiliation beyond criminal persecution, with him being the face of justice. He has become the face of righteous indignity, and I wonder should he ever make a terrible mistake to do something scandalous (e.g. cheat on his wife) or commit a crime, would he still feel that his trial and shame should be held in full view of television viewers all over the world? Can Chris Hansen cast the first stone?It's not even a hypothetical anymore, as Chris Hansen was caught on tape having a romantic dinner with a former intern named Kristyn Caddell, with some reports alleging that Hansen has been carrying on a four month affair with the now 30-year old Florida television reporter. I find no joy in "calling this" two years earlier nor do I wring my hands in glee a person who took great pleasure in publicly humiliating others who were enough trouble as it was gets a taste of his own medicine. It's a sad situation for him, his wife and his two children.
Friday, July 8, 2011
Real Diversity: Disagreeing But Not Being Disagreeable
The passionate responses to the Tyree column reminded me of an honest and thoughtful blog written by NBA analyst Chris Broussard, a devout Christian, after former NBA player John Amaechi disclosed in 2007 he is gay. Broussard wrote he believes the NBA is ready for a gay player, but he also powerfully laid out that while he's against homosexuality that doesn't preclude him from being friends with ESPN.com columnist LZ Granderson, who is openly gay (and a dear friend of mine, too).Broussard wrote: "LZ and I know where each other stand and we respect each other's right to believe as he does. I know he's gay, and he knows I believe that's a sin. I know he thinks I get my moral standards from an outdated, mistranslated book, and he knows I believe he needs to change his lifestyle. Still, we can laugh together, and play ball together.That's real diversity. Disagreeing but not being disagreeable."